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I learned something terribly upsetting today and I am TOTALLY ticked off about it. I had lunch today with my oldest son, who was about to return home to NYC, plus my daughter and her husband, and my ex-husband. All was going well until the ex mentioned re-financing his house, and threw in a comment about how he had paid off the mortgage last year. Knowing that he had lost his job last year, I asked how he had done that - assuming he had gotten a severance package when that job ended. WRONG! At that time, he apparently took ALL of the money out of his pension and used IT to pay off the mortgage (and who knows what else). Big problem with that is this - a portion of that money was MINE according to Federal and State laws governing such things. Because I didn't work for so many years, while my kids were young, I don't have much pension of my own and I was counting on having that to help me retire some day. This is not only immoral, it is illegal for him to have done this - and his current wife is an attorney and should know that. I've let a lot of things slide over the past 8 years but this is different. So I will be hiring an attorney as soon as possible - within the next few days. I have a feeling this could get ugly. The really bad part is that this came out in front of my kids, and that's not right. I'm not ranting on here nearly as much as I have been doing on the phone since this all came out - but that's because this is all out there for public viewing. Trust me, I've been saying some really ugly things about a certain person!